case against 8

“The battle line between good and evil runs through the heart of everyman”, Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn

Last night Joe and I holding hands, he eating a combination of graham crackers, cream cheese and Kool Whip, me chomping on a freshly cut fruit salad of course with Kool Whip, with our puppy Chance curled up in-between us, we watched the HBO documentary, ‘The Case Against 8’ sitting on the sofa in our Bruno-Buncher home. I had tissue at the ready and bawled brazenly, Joe at first sobbed in a silent heave-ho then permitted the emotions to cause any and all havoc they so desired. My husband, his husband with our marriage bands permanently wrapped around our left hand on the prescribed wedding finger sat mesmerized watching a piece of history which had happened in our most recent life time and an event which specifically, directly, and forever changed the course of our lives.

Two brave couples before us, said enough is enough, love is love and two brave attorneys added this IS America and it is only enough when it is legal. Joe and I watched as dreams turned into hope, hope into reality and reality so permanent. We watched as arguments filled with bias, bogus and bull shit were thrown about all with the purpose of denial of equality, freedom and choice. All the arguments were muttered and murmured by people who spoke of God from their mouths but not from their soul, men and women who never read the entire Constitution, yet somehow knew what the Founding Fathers meant to say, and individuals so afraid of their own weaknesses, desires, and dreadful lives as to deny anyone else from celebrating joy and jubilation. 

There are horizons always ahead, and we are told to find them we must face forward. But before any route can be established you need to understand from which path you just emerged. There have been detours, road blocks infrastructure too dangerous to travel in our lives and without fortitude one might actually stop moving. Two couples, two attorneys would not let their feet freeze because it was their head and hearts that were really causing the momentum. They had more to lose by permitting the status quo to be their compass and whole lot more to gain by letting their love lead the way. Joe and I said “I do” when the world around around was chanting “no you don’t”. We knew that no matter what, our love was resilient, but we now know that no one no matter how small, mean, hypocritical, or hateful can diminish the power of that love. We are and will be in control of that.

Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn said: “The battle line between good and evil runs through the heart of everyman”, with battle against Prop 8 and the defeat of DOMA it seems some have chosen the side of good to triumph. To be triumphant your hearts must must be beating big, bold, and brighter. Joe and I watched the Case Against 8 sitting on the sofa in the Bruno-Buncher home and nothing could have been better! It was like running marathon but with a whole lot of tissues as we crossed the finish line.