such a fuss

One might wonder why all the fuss over one more heterosexual married male having an affair, or two or three?

History has proven that married heterosexual men have had illicit, adulterous, extra marital affairs for eons and decades. Kings have boasted about it, Athletes have shown off their latest “babes”, then of course repented, ( only after being caught by the press), and Politicians have rued the day they gallantly gavotted once too often in the open arms of some mistress for hire or some woman whose only expense was a night in a hotel room.

Heterosexual men have proudly worn the badge of MALE, allowing them to be the hunter and always looking for female prey while wearing a wedding band or secretly hiding the gold under the glow of bubbly Champaign or golden candle light.

We are told how fragile the “Institution of Marriage” can be and warned that any intrusion of that sacred “Institution” by homosexuals would wreck the lives of future generations and turn our children into… into some heterosexual males who stomp all over the values of marriage.

Tiger Woods is the latest victim of his own excess. No way to understand why he veered into the lustful world of womanizing, but his fame and fortune have plummeted him into the gossip web of want to be’s, want to be better than he’s, and want to show him he is not as good as he thinks he is’s. Most complaints heard regarding his romp into infidelity, are not that the “Institution of Marriage” is dissolving like the grease spot in a kitchen pipe as Drano is poured to wipe out the mess, but that as a role model how could this man behave as a heathen. The Children will be so disappointed.

When the litany of other cultural stars such as Kobe Bryant, or Elliot Spitzer, David Vitter, John Ensign found Viagra time was more convenient than to “honor and obey”, the “hub bub was more to diminish a shooting star than to chastise these rambunctious boys for degrading the fine and hallowed “Institution of Marriage”. And in recent times, the only spouse to come forward and claim the “Institution” had been damaged, was Jenny Sanford, who not only called her husband a cheat, but never stood by his side pretending that past discretions were not harmful or demeaning.

There was no pompous news hour by FOX noise shamefully pointing fingers toward the list of Republican male Politicians for chipping away at the moral mortar of marriage, no Rush Limbaugh despondent and dismayed at the audacity of the male species finding the company of female companions as they kissed their wives goodbye in the morning, nor any Evangelical Church leader or Mormon Tabernacle Choir, spewing the evilness of going against their interpretation of God’s will. These are “straight” guys, and straight men will be straight men.

Nope, the “Institution of Marriage” can only collapse when caused by the real devils among us… homosexuals. And all those pro marriage “grass roots” protesters have not raised one picket sign in front of the offices or homes of the wee little men who have little concern for their wives or families, and have a great big love affair feeding their own selfish needs and egos. I am sure somewhere in their source of sane the Pro Family and Pro “opposite sex marriage” groupies have found a passage or two either in the Bible or the U.S. Constitution proclaiming a straying man does not offend the meaning of marriage.

Ever since the greed of the 80’s through the gluttony of the 21^st century, we have lived by the golden rule of do as I say, but forget what I do. And in the land of hypocrisy seeped with great bigotry, we are told that marriage is only between one man and one woman. We are told that anything else will not only destroy the foundations of family and country, but it will insight God’s wrath. We are told that this is not an anti gay movement, or the dismantling of Americans equal rights, but a way to save the “Institution of Marriage.” Yet we are never told how infidelity, adultery, divorce by heterosexuals has made any dent at all in the sacred tower of marriage.

It is amazing how the long line of public figures finally turn honest in their anti marriage behaviors, reluctantly, but the truth of the act is hard not to see. But the anti “same sex” marriage opponents, refuse to admit that it DOES have everything to do with their fears, their insecurities, their feeling of loss of power, their bigotry toward homosexuals.

I wonder how we might resolve all these issues of marriage if we spoke the truth about them. If the cheating husband told his wife why he needs other women to feel fulfilled and maybe the two of them could try and fix the real cause, make changes starting with the truth. If those who proclaim the “Institution of Marriage” is not really about one man and one woman, but about the lack of education regarding homosexuals, or religious dogma regarding homosexuals, or ignorance regarding homosexuals, then maybe with truth we could begin a healthy conversation.

Such a fuss once more about wandering eyes, arms and bodies, such a mess about fame and fortune, such a fuss about being a role model; but never a fuss about Marriage and its glorious institution being flattened, broad sided and bulldozed by heterosexual men.

Shame isn’t it?