Wednesday, May 12, 2010

getting personal

“…this obsession with one’s personal life has got to end…”, so said South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford when asked about meeting his Argentine girlfriend last week in Florida.


Governor Sanford must have a case of Political Amnesia, which promotes hypocrisy; do as I say not as I do, and little recollection of being a bully speaking from a bully pulpit. The Governor is now asking for less indulgence in his personal life when throughout his career as the Republican Party’s golden boy, Mister Sanford minded the business of each and every Lesbian and Gay man and woman who wanted equal rights to marry.


Governor Sanford was one of the spokespeople who stood firm on insisting the Institution of Marriage remain one man one woman, (because as he stated God wanted it that way). Mister Sanford demeaned the personal lives of the Gay and Lesbian American citizen by insisting the love between a man and a man, a woman and a woman, was immoral, improper and unchristian like. He, without knowing any of those individuals personally delved into their personal lives, invaded their privacy and tried to stop them from loving and marrying those they desired.


Governor Sanford has joined the chorus of other recently acknowledged adulterers in the political arena, like Senator Jon Ensign, who after lying about an affair, reluctantly admitting to the affair, being scolded for the affair, are tired of people asking them about the affair. Senator Ensign is all pouty and moody whenever a reporter asks him what is happening with the family of the woman with whom you cheated on your wife. He tells the people of Nevada it was his personal life and we all need to move on. But until the Senator was caught being an adulterer, he was scrutinizing the lives of the Lesbian and Gay community, preaching how marriage was a divine gift from God given to only one man and to one woman to share and to share for a life time. Senator Ensign, spoke eloquently about his marriage and how gays in general would spoil the Institution. Mister Ensign knew none of the Gays about which he spoke, and had the audacity to dive deep into each and every man and woman’s life to be critical and corrective.


Marriage IS a personal contract between two consenting adults. It is hopefully built on love, compassion, respect, and full of emotion. It is a chance to meld two lives into one, creating a couple who provides strength and helps to confront the weaknesses and fight on for better. But marriage is as frail as the humans who decide to unite, to bring two worlds into one. However, Mark and Jon when you speak in the language of hypocrisy filled with hyperbole, and hearsay and indulge your views into the lives of those you really know little about and assume more than you should; you open yourself up to the same scrutiny as you shove onto others. So, if in fact, Governor Sanford, and Senator Ensign, you were busy minding my business without my permission, I certainly will be minding your affairs, especially when they so contradict your holier than thou attitude.


If marriage is and institution you both describe as a gift from God, a union for a life time then how come you both kicked it in the shins and probably would have continued to kick it had you not been caught? Sure there are a bunch of gay men and women who want to get married and will after a year or so decide it is not what they want or need, but then look at the two of you, you both sought greener pastures with different partners.


I am so tired of bullies victimizing others and when they finally face the same fingers pointing to them they cry and cry foul. You both have made inroads into my personal life by vehemently denying me the right to marry. So I will in great earnest point fingers at you and let you know what hypocritical fools, self serving jerks people you are.


You are ‘…tired of the obsession with one’s personal life…’ funny when the tables are turned the room seems claustrophobic and close.


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